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What we are really trying to outrun when we try to outrun death

On nervous systems, safety, and why some childhoods leave almost no trace

On the two questions I get asked more than any others

On the difference between enough and more, and the feelings we buy in between

On the fantasy of belonging, the luggage we bring with us, and the work that has to come first.

On watching a child learn what he actually wants to know

Why minimalism helped clear more than clutter.

On the life that was expected, the one we built instead, and what it actually required.

On what happens when nobody tells a child a thing is hard

On living nature, dead environments, and what the body is actually asking for.

On patterns, mirrors, and changing what you’re a match for.

On owning less, the particular freedom of a child who knows where home actually is, and the question that quietly stopped one day.

On the seduction of a particular promise, and what it’s actually pointing to.

Not when things go your way. When they don’t.

On what a rule can teach you and what only a choice can. On doing something well or doing something true to you

On projections, the guilt of saying no, and becoming someone no one can control.

On the old definition of success, what is replacing it, and why the shift is already happening.

On leaving the mainstream path with your kids, and the loneliness nobody warns you about.

On cold, surrender, and the body’s elemental work.

On the gap between who needs support most and who can actually access it.

On the accusation of selfishness, and what happens when you no longer collapse under it.

On the oldest path, the loudest distractions, and the best drug in the universe.

On why the gap between what we need and what we get has enormously widened.

On what the system actually produces, and why I became more afraid of it than of the unknown.

On heaven, the present moment, and the only place anything real has ever happened.

On unschooling, wrong turns, and why the clearest decisions start with knowing what to refuse.

On soul-holes dressed as lifestyles, and the quiet mathematics of enough.

Coming back to what was always there. On nourishment, rest, light, and what we keep forgetting to give ourselves.

On pure beings, muddy knees, and what we forgot.

On what supplements can do, and what they can’t.

On becoming an evolutionary rebel, not by fighting the world, but by finally looking at it through your own eyes.

On why the soul came here, and what it is actually looking for.

On what our symptoms are actually trying to say.

On difficulty, sincerity, and what it means to actually mean it.

On why spiritual practice is not about finding peace, but about learning to be broken open.

On what crisis is actually asking of us.

On what the body is doing when it stops cooperating.

On trust, desire, and why money was never the real question.

On what early life writes into the body, and how long it stays there.

A line I wrote a few years ago that I keep returning to:

On what chronic illness has to do with who we learned to be.

On sitting with what’s on the surface long enough to find what’s underneath.

On what we miss when we only treat what we can see.

The Inner Child at the Heart of Every Relationship

The Work of Struggle, the Work of Love

The Line That Runs Through Every Heart

The Mirror Our Children Hold Up to Us

When Stress Has No Way Out

For years I thought anger was the feeling. Lately I’m not so sure.

I notice this in myself more than I’d like to admit. The thing happened to me, so apparently I get to behave however that thing left me behaving. Forever, until further notice.

I keep turning this over because it explains so much of what otherwise looks like pure hypocrisy. The strictest enforcer of a rule is so often the person who broke it hardest once, just quietly,...

In 2018, the Lorenzin law made ten vaccines mandatory for school enrollment in Italy. Every parent I knew was either complying or panicking. I did neither.